I’m ninety!

Last Friday my husband and I took advantage of a beautiful fall day by going out to brunch. As we approached the restaurant door there was an elderly couple also approaching. Their movement was slow and deliberate. Supporting each other by the forearm, they made their way to the entrance. We yielded, allowing them to proceed ahead of us. When we got in the waiting area the wife said, “Thank you so much for letting us pass, we’re ninety!” “Ninety! We replied, well that’s great!” While waiting to be seated she told us of her sixty-eight years of marriage and good health.

During our brief conversation at least three times she enthusiastically declared “I’m ninety and I’m healthy!” What an inspiration! In a nation where the elderly are not always celebrated and where aging is often viewed as a burden or to be avoided. I was blessed to encounter a healthy ninety year old couple smiling, chatting and full of optimism. I don’t know that I want to live to be ninety, but encountering them was a real treat!

Later during our meal my husband and I looked across the restaurant to discover they had been joined by another elderly couple. They even had friends! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Gifts come in all kinds of packages. Offer good today and look for a return, one way or another. #Counsel4Living

About Coffee

Did you know that a cup of coffee a day can ward off Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease? It’s true, check the literature. Conversely that same coffee, if consumed in excess, can spike your blood pressure, cause agitation, increase anxiety and nervous jitters. Wow, talk about polar opposites! So what’s the answer for coffee lovers? Moderation.

Seek to Consume a moderate amount of coffee per day. Start with an 8 ounce mug and see where that takes you. If two of those races your heart and makes you anxious, back off the two and go back to one. It’s trial and error like many other things. The key is to learn your body’s signals and treat it right! ๐Ÿ‘

Have a good weekend everybody and enjoy that morning coffee โ˜•๏ธโ˜•๏ธ


ย The ย threshold of a new season is a good time to streamline everything and get some order after a busy summer. You’ll experience less stress if you streamline everything you can, when you can.

Talk less

Text less

Buy less

Give or throw away broken and useless items

Eat less

Streamline your workout routine to a total body one

Pray more

There are times when life gets overwhelmingly busy and stuff in our environments can get out of control. Family issues, work issues and life’s maintenance can totter us off-balance… When you come to yourself, stop and regroup. Now is a good time to do this. Settle yourself and take stock of everything around you. Establish order in the areas of your life that are within your ability to manage. Doing so will diminish stress and prepare you for all that the next season holds for you and yours. Shalom ๐Ÿ˜Ž โœŒ๏ธ#Counsel4Living

We don’t know a lot ’til

We’ve sat through a couple of closings

Sat in a couple of emergency rooms

Walked through a couple of first days

Buried a few cars… And some special people too

Watched our kids little giggles turn into “Mom,… I’ve got this.”

Aced a couple of interviews , and the exit ones too

Created something useful for others

Realize that all humans are connected

Give of ourselves and our resources to a cause

“Could” do a lot of things, but “choose” not to

Listen more than we speak

And don’t need to speak until we have something valuable to say ๐Ÿ˜‰

Happy Saturday! #Counsel4Living


Take all your knowledge, plus experience, and teach!

Teach your daughters and your sons. Teach your neighbors and their kids, teach in your peer groups, teach your pew mates and your Sunday schools.

If you’ve learned something and it’s useful, share it with someone… Teach.



Everybody wants to be it. Many are it. Some days you feel it, some days you don’t.

This past weekend while in New York, I saw the Harlem Gospel Choir. They performed at BB King’s restaurant and music venue in Times Square. What a treat! It was a gospel brunch, which was fitting for a Sunday. Folks from around the world filled the space, ate good food, sang along and clapped.

My family and I loved the whole event! One of the highlights was the singing of the “happy song”. You know the one! Pharrell Williams international singing, dancing, everybody be happy song. Anyway, google it if you don’t. So, one of the choir members begins to lead the happy song and the whole room jumped to their feet! Clapping, swaying and singing the happy song. The people in front of us were from Spain, next to us New Jersey, on our other side they sang loudly in a Croatian accent?? You get the point. Everybody wanted to feel and be happy… And we were, in that moment, happy.

Now, on a regular Wednesday AM back in Chicagoland I’m reflecting on how to sustain that happy state all humans desire. No one lives there 24/7, but do you think it’s possible to have regular access to happiness? I do.



The door of opportunity that’s open today, may be shut tomorrow.

I know it’s important that you be on time, but do you have the wisdom to move “in time”? If you haven’t developed that ability to move according to inner guidance, you may have to circle around the mountain twenty more times to reach a desired outcome.

Practice discernment and move when prompted. #Counsel4Living

True Story: The other day leaving a grocery store parking lot, I saw a woman walking along the side of the road. It was 90+ degrees that day. She had a bulging back pack strapped on and a grocery sack in each hand as she proceeded slowly down the rocky road. From behind I could see how exhausted she was. Clearly, she was doing what she had to do with what she had… Her hands and her feet. I respect that.

And there I was, in a luxury vehicle, with the AC on high. Before I knew it, I slammed on the brakes, let the window down and asked her if she could use a ride home?What?!? In 2014 with all the bizarre occurrences among people letting a stranger into your car may not be a good idea, but this decision was bigger than me.

I could hear myself asking her “Could you use a ride home? It’s awfully hot out. ” She examined me searchingly, tentatively. She asked if I was even going her way, as she pointed down the road. She didn’t live far, she didn’t want to put me out. “No problem.” I stated, “I’m going that way too.” She crossed in front of the car and got in the passenger seat. She was nervous and sat very still. I’m sure she was hoping I wasn’t nuts with a sinister plan. I hoped the same about her.

I introduced myself and chatted, she only replied. When we pulled in front of her place she thanked me and I reminded her that God saw her today and will help her if she asks Him. He uses people you know :)

She said, “God Bless You.” I replied “Thank you Ruby.” I drove off smiling. What an interesting opportunity, huh?