I know who you are. You’re the go getter ambitious one. In your family, at the office, in your community, at your church. You’re a go to person, you’re resourceful and competent. You help others get it done.
Periodically, you feel a little drained, pulled on and in need of some help yourself. You’re a Counsel4living client… because, I help the worlds helpers. You’re not alone.
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C’mon guys! If you’re married, be married. If you don’t want to be, adjust your life accordingly.
Lately, too many women have been sitting on my couch lamenting over needs unmet. Not wants, wishes or desires. Legitimate marital needs being unmet. Basic communication, basic intimacy and basic nurturing.
When I say basic, that is exactly what I mean. Nothing over the top or ridiculously demanding. Staying in touch throughout the day, talking about the well-being of your family, talking to each other daily. This is basic communication in a marriage.
Basic intimacy: sharing information with each other no one else has access to, showing each other affection(touch), regular sexual activity. This is basic intimacy.
Nurturing is attending to the basic human needs of your wife. Are you paying her regular attention, have you provided shelter? Is there food in your house? Is there gas in her car?… Basic.
C’mon guys, stop and take inventory of your priorities. I know life is busy and demanding. I know you have stress. I know many of you are getting it right, hats off to you! But for those fellas who are in a quandary about what they want and conflicted for a long list of personal reasons, please sort out your “stuff”.
It’s unfair to the good wives some of you have to be haphazardly handling your marriage/family.
Please stop and take stock of your relationship this month. All chances do not remain forever.
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Yesterday was warm and sunny. This morning it’s a little cooler, nonetheless I took a stroll out back to water and check in on my garden. First I had a light sweater on top of my yoga gear, then I quickly switched over to a zip up polar fleece… what a difference a day makes.
Coffee mug in hand, with Eddie Bauer flip-flops on, I strolled up and down the deck and around. You know what I discovered? Things are blooming around here! We’ve had a lot of rain, storms and just enough sunshine to jump-start the blossoming of spring… hmm, an interesting analogy for life and business as well.
So here is my most outstanding snap shot of what’s blossoming around me today. Enjoy!
I’ve been giving thought lately to starting a series on aging gracefully. The topical points are swirling in my head. I’m thinking I’ll pen them all at some point, but for today I want to share briefly on the value of sitting still and quiet.
You know you’re maturing when you can look at younger people, whether you know them or not, and see by observation a couple of sources of trouble. When I was a child, my cousins and I would run to my Grandma with a lot of “kid issues” that arose as we played around her house. She was a mediator, counselor and enforcer(yikes), when she needed to be. As I grew, I can recall her hearing many matters of the heart and replying frequently, “just keep breathing.” I didn’t know what that meant then… I get it now.
My Grandma was the wife of a Pastor and mother of eight, so when she spoke most listened. She didn’t speak incessantly, which made her words all the more valuable. What I’ve since gleaned about her quiet and composed demeanor, was that she was preserving herself. My Grandma had learned the secret of energy conservation. So many demands on her and so many voices, with so many individual and collective needs, yet she was cool as a cucumber. How could that be? She faced the death of children and grandchildren. A host of illnesses, so many break ups and make ups among her children and their spouses. A lifetime of broken limbs, broken dreams, triumphs and joys, all with a calm demeanor. I’m thinking my Grandma had not been this way her entire life, but this is what I witnessed in her latter years… Such grace and peace.
It makes me wonder about the power to choose behaviors that soothe rather than agitate, even in the face of great challenges. I can make it my intention to preserve my well being. After all, if we let each spectacular life’s event “take us out”, what’s left to live a quality life with? If one is mentally capable, can we choose a composed response to almost anything life presents or does every challenge require a hysterical response? If you have the ability to choose, what’s your choice?
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I remember when my daughter was a junior/senior in HS, we spent countless hours in local book stores sipping coffee drinks and flipping through books. It was one of our favorite pastimes. As the search for colleges was underway, we began to move into the material that helps students assess their occupational fit.
Did she have school counselors? Yes. Were they competent? Yes. Did they offer vocational exploration at her high school? Yes. We paid for and supported her high school education and all the surrounding programs, but who better to help your child explore their strong suits than you? You live with them.
Parents you know what your kids like to do, where they thrive. What activity that just keeps on surfacing that is positive and possibly lucrative. Give your teenagers fuel to pursue what they’re good at. You are their most powerful endorser. Spend time now, you can’t get it back.
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After a spring break of fun and frolicking, my daughter who’s in college said, “Mom, I realized I’m almost halfway finished.” This statement came after I encouraged her to dig in and refocus now that she had some fun. I didn’t coin the phrase “children stay in school”, but anyone who ever dropped out of school or knows someone who did, can appreciate the value of the statement. The calendar pages will continue to turn month by month, year after year, whether you engage your educational goals or not. To engage them with unwavering diligence will eventually yield success. Stay in there!
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