Giving thanks

So thankful for all of you – readers, tweeters, bloggers, family and friends. What an awesome year it has been! From my family to yours with tons of gratitude🍁🍂🌾

Powerful message

Tell your teenagers it’s okay to be who they are. Encourage their individuality. Help them find the outlet for it. And while you’re supporting them, parents or mentors, hit the refresh button on this message for yourself. I love it! It’s on the play list.

Ready for a relationship

Pain attracts Pain, discontent attracts discontent, peace attracts peace, contentment attracts contentment. We attract what we embody.

Are you interested in a relationship? Looking for a suitable partner? If so, please ask yourself what state am I in? Am I emotionally healthy enough to attract a healthy partner. Am I mature enough, grounded enough? Are my expectations for a partner realistic and achievable? Ask yourself the tough questions in preparation for your best relationship, then work on yourself in advance. This doesn’t mean you won’t have challenges in your relationships, but it will give you a measure of self-awareness that will be invaluable as you share your life with someone.

Make something happen

IMG_0851Hi Blog Community! I wanted to share an excerpt from my daily devotional with you. It will be out in paperback, just in time for Christmas. Enjoy, and like it if it resonates with you.

Make something happen

Want change? Pursue it. Go after something different and you’ll get something different. Literally, the gear shift for your life is in your mind. Change your thought pattern and you can change your outcome. Fill your mind with positives. Envision yourself healthy. See the success of your children. Build a healthy marriage in your mind. Occupy all the dark corners of doubt in your mind with something good. Choose to see the best in people. See your vocation thriving. Imagine that goal accomplished. Now then, what of your mind? You’ve created a healthy, fertile place to deposit good things. This soil will yield much increase for you.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8 (ESV)
Excerpt From: Karla U. Taylor, MEd. “One A Day Nuggets For Success.” Taylor. iBooks. This material is protected by copyright.

No thanks!

When I look back on poor decisions made in pain or emotional turmoil I say, “No thanks”.

From a point of clarity, “No thanks”.

My head is on straight now, so “No thanks “.

I may be alone, but “No thanks”.

From my true self, with courage and conviction. I say again to you, to this, or that – ” No thanks!”

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They don’t have to like it

I am so glad I grew up in the era where a persons self-worth was not determined by likes or retweets. Where self-confidence was established in the home environment. Acceptance came from people who knew you, literally knew you, not virtually . When a handful of quality relationships could carry a person a lifetime. No one really has hundreds of friends. The notion is laughable. Who are we if we check social media more times a day than we engage face to face conversations in a month? Do you have three people you could call who would come to your home in a crisis? Would you be comfortable with them seeing you just as you are? No hair and makeup or barbers cut and shave. Can you have a phone conversation with them?

What is the source of your self-confidence? It comes from within, not external validation. Eventually external validation is good, we all need it. Being supported and understood is comforting. In the event that does not occur just when you need it. What are you working with in your inner man? Can it carry you, alone.

“I will lift up my eyes to the hills—
From whence comes my help?

My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2 NKJV


One of many

imageWhen you look out of your personal lens at the world, remember you’re one of many. So don’t take yourself so seriously. “It” can get done without you.

About Marriage

Recently a close friend asked for my input on a class assignment. The question was “What is your view of marriage?” The interviewees needed to be those married five, ten or twenty plus years. I fall into the last category. This week I’m sharing my response to the question with intent to support someone who may be struggling with conflict in their marriage. Here was my response:

“I’ve been married twenty-seven years and I think marriage is a covenant made before God for a lifelong partnership. When two decide to commit to the journey of loving, learning and growing, the outcome can be a mature comfortable union that others want to emulate.”

If it’s a bad week, month or year in your marriage, you’re not alone. All couples experience trying times. Try not to make a life-altering decision in the heat of anger. Step back, say a prayer and get some help tomorrow if the two of you can’t work it out yourselves.image

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Busy body

Sometimes doing so much doesn’t yield any answers we seek.image It just busys (is that a word 👀 lol) the body. Remember- we are human beings, not human doings. The mind transforms circumstances, not excessive activity. Consider sitting still long enough to change your mind, then transformation will follow. Take it easy breezy :).


imageEverything doesn’t have to be so complicated. If you need support-call out, reach out, or lift your hands to be picked up. Move whatever works on you and let the rest unfold. #DoYourPart.